Frugal...it is a word that I have always cringed at. As far as I was concerned, the definition of frugal was, "neglect." Being frugal sounds like you won't have enough to be comfortable. Going without to save a few pennies.
Looking it up in the dictionary didn’t help either. “Thrifty” was just another word I had to look up. That was a little better, “to use ones resources wisely.” This sounds more like creativity than neglect.
In Spanish, you say “they are living beyond their means” by saying, “Viven por encima de sus posibilidades.” This translates to, “live above their possibilities.” It is about bringing comfort with the resources available. You really don't need twelve mattresses to get a comfortable nights sleep.
Perhaps frugal needs a better definition. One that makes those who feel they are being frugal proud. Maybe it could be, “to creatively provide for those you love with the resources available.”
It is not about neglect, but actually making your resources go further so MORE people can have their needs meet. That is something to be proud of. What would your definition of frugal be?